Goodbye is a sad word, but it’s also a necessary one. It’s what helps us move on and make room for new people and experiences in our lives. But when you’ve lost someone dear to you, even goodbyes can be painful. This is where I come in: I’m here to help you understand how grief works and how to process your feelings after experiencing the saddest goodbye of all—death.
Grief comes in different forms.
Grief is a natural response to loss. It can come in many forms: physical, emotional, or spiritual. If you’re grieving the end of a relationship with someone who was important to you–whether they were your partner or not–you may feel sad and lonely; angry that they left without saying goodbye; confused about why they did what they did; frustrated by how much time it takes to heal from such an unexpected breakup; worried about how long it will take before you can move on with your life again…the list goes on!
Grief is different for everyone but there are some commonalities between us all when we’re experiencing these intense emotions associated with losing someone close: You might have trouble sleeping at night because every time your mind wanders off into dreamland all those memories come flooding back again like waves crashing against rocks (this one is especially true if the person who left was abusive). Your appetite might disappear completely, leaving behind only emptiness in its place. Or maybe instead of eating less food than usual (or eating more), everything seems tasteless so nothing tastes good anymore regardless of how hungry or full I am right now–that’s another common complaint among people who’ve recently been through breakups too! Breathtaking Love Poems for Her: Explore the Romantic World of Poetry Here
There are stages of grief.
The stages of grief are not set in stone. They’re not a checklist you have to go through every time you lose someone or something important to you. The stages can overlap, and they don’t always follow this order:
- Denial – You may feel numb at first, like nothing has happened or changed. You might even convince yourself that your loved one will come back at some point and everything will be wonderful again!
- Anger – You might be angry with yourself for letting go of your relationship so easily, or perhaps even angrier at them for leaving without warning (or because they were mean). This anger can lead into bargaining: “I’ll do anything if only they come back.”
- Depression – Once all hope has been lost and reality sets in, depression sets in too–the realization that things aren’t going back to how they were before means there’s no bright future ahead either; it’s just darkness without end!
You don’t have to go through this alone.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You don’t have to go through this alone–your friends and family will be there for you, but only if you let them in.
- Talk about your feelings with those around you: Tell the people who love you how much they mean to you and how much their support means during this difficult time. The more open we are with our feelings, the better equipped we are at dealing with them positively rather than bottling them up inside ourselves until they become toxic or explosive (which may lead to an even bigger problem down the road).
- Seek professional help: If talking about it isn’t enough, consider seeing a therapist or grief counselor who can help guide through these rough waters by providing tools for managing grief effectively while also helping identify any underlying issues that may contribute towards feeling depressed/anxious after losing someone close in life such as unresolved conflicts between family members etc., which might lead back towards feeling depressed/anxious again once things start improving again!
You can feel your feelings, and that’s okay.
It’s okay to feel sad.
It’s okay to feel angry.
It’s okay to feel guilty, too. And happy, and numb–all of these feelings are valid and normal parts of the grieving process. You might even experience them all at once! Remember: there is no right or wrong way to grieve; there just is what happens in your heart and mind during this time, which will be unique for each person.
Crying does help you heal.
Crying is a natural response to grief. It can be cathartic and help you release the pain, but it may not feel like it at first. Crying will make you feel better in time; just don’t wait too long!
You can move past the sadness, and even laugh again.
You don’t have to stay sad forever.
A breakup is a huge loss, and you may feel like the world has ended. It’s okay if your sadness lasts for a while–it’s normal to mourn the end of a relationship (even if it wasn’t good). But eventually, as time passes and things get back into perspective for you, those feelings will start to lift. If you want them gone sooner rather than later, there are ways that can help:
- Spend time with friends and family who love and support you; they’ll remind you that life goes on outside of this relationship too!
- Reach out for professional counseling if necessary (and when appropriate). A trained therapist will listen carefully without judgment or advice-giving; just being heard by someone who cares about what matters most will help immensely during this difficult time in your life.*
It’s okay to grieve what you’ve lost, but it’s also okay to move forward and heal from it
Moving on from the loss of someone you love is a process, and it’s important to allow yourself time to grieve. Don’t be afraid of your emotions; crying will help you heal and move forward.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it–from friends, family or professionals like grief counselors or therapists. You might even consider joining support groups so that others can relate with your experiences and share their own stories with each other as well!
Finally, don’t forget that while it may take some time before you feel ready for another relationship again (or even just casual dating), there will be someone out there who can make you smile again someday soon!